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Extensive scientific research and clinical evidence indicate that the quality of attachment bonds is fundamental to health, well-being, and the healing of emotional wounds. Significant others play a central role in shaping these bonds.
Relationship challenges frequently stem from communication difficulties, which can result in recurring cycles of anger and withdrawal. Couples experiencing these issues may feel misunderstood, isolated, or frustrated. Engaging in therapy with a neutral third party can facilitate improved communication and relationship dynamics. Early intervention may prevent further deterioration and foster a stronger connection.
My Approach: Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Its Mechanisms
EFT differs from other forms of couple therapy, such as those focused primarily on communication skills. This approach is grounded in attachment and bonding, similar to the connections experienced or longed for with caregiving parents. EFT supports couples in developing a primary relationship that is safe, secure, nurturing, and comforting, enabling individuals to meet their emotional needs and foster personal growth.
Identify the Cycle and Change It
Many partners in relationships experience anger or withdrawal, yet often struggle to express vulnerability, fear, abandonment, or feelings of being overwhelmed. These primary emotions frequently underlie recurring behavioral patterns.
I aim to foster an atmosphere of safety and trust, enabling you as a couple to share more vulnerably and to practice empathetic listening. Over time, these new behaviors can become established and integrated into your relationship.
Individual Counselling
Frequently, individual concerns are shaped by relational wounds from the past or present. Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT) addresses issues such as depression, anxiety, and trauma through an attachment-based approach. Understanding and experiencing these emotional needs can facilitate deeper reconnection with oneself and others. EFIT is also beneficial for individuals navigating life transitions, including separation and divorce. The therapeutic relationship provides a secure base to support processing during these periods.
Whether you seek support individually or as a couple, my primary goal is to provide a safe environment for you to explore your experiences in life and relationships. I am committed to understanding where you encounter challenges and how these patterns manifest in your daily life.
FAQ
What does Emotionally Focused Therapy treat?
Emotionally Focused Therapy treats distress rooted in insecure attachment, including relationship conflict, emotional disconnection, trauma-related responses, depression, anxiety, and difficulties with emotional regulation and intimacy.
Does couple and individual therapy work?
Yes. Emotionally Focused Therapy works, and it is one of the most empirically supported models for relationship distress.
Research consistently shows that EFT leads to significant and lasting improvements in relationship satisfaction, emotional closeness, and attachment security. About 70–75% of couples move from distress to recovery, and up to 90% show meaningful improvement, with gains maintained over time. EFT is also effective for individuals, particularly where anxiety, depression, or trauma are linked to attachment injuries.
In short, EFT works because it targets the emotional and attachment processes that maintain distress, rather than just symptoms or behaviours.
Can relationship counselling resolve conflict?
Yes. Emotionally Focused Therapy can resolve relationship conflict by identifying the negative interaction cycle that fuels the conflict, accessing the vulnerable emotions underneath reactive behaviours, and helping partners respond to each other in ways that create safety, understanding, and secure connection.
